Saturday
From early in the morning, there was great excitement in the
SU grounds as a couple of marquees had been constructed on the bare earth terrace
below our little garden. The place was a
hive of activity with people binding the guy ropes with brightly coloured
fabrics and a florist busily creating floral arrangements – a wedding was
afoot! Sadly, Andy, Alan and Eleanor had teaching responsibilities to fulfil at the pastors' conference (more later), so they had to leave Heather and Isobel to enjoy the wedding celebrations (as well as catch up with some team admin / note write ups).
Jacqueline, the manager of the hostel, dressed in a striking,
voluminous traditional African red and black dress and was keen to tell us
about the proceedings, so Heather and Isobel couldn’t resist the opportunity to
stay home and watch a Rwandan wedding, whilst the rest of the team headed off
to lead the second day of the conference.
Jacqueline had told us the wedding would start at 10am but true
to form, by this time of the morning there were still swathes of coloured
fabric being used to decorate the marquees, where crates of Fanta were being
placed to warm in the sun, well before any of the guests arrived. As the preparations
continued an incongruous blast of Country and Western style music interspersed
with screeching Indian medleys issued from the amplifiers below.
Eventually the guests started to arrive to fill the two open
marquees, which faced each other across the sandy yard. The guests were
brightly dressed in a plethora of vibrant coloured robes, some traditional
African prints and others more reminiscent of Indian sarees. Two of the ladies, dressed in bright yellow
and red matching outfits stood like bookends at the foot of the flight of steps
down to the wedding location, ready to greet the guests as they arrived and to
hand out gifts. Jacqueline was very keen
to explain all the proceedings and, shouted across to us when the groom’s party
arrived at 11.30am. The men were dressed
in a modern equivalent of their traditional tribal costumes, so wore drapes of
zebra printed fabric over their western white shirts, and carried carved
walking sticks, those of the groom and best man being covered in goat skin, to
signify the chiefs. The groom’s and
bride’s families sat in opposing marquees and then a very long discussion of
the terms of the dowry ensued. The head
of each family held a microphone and negotiations over the giving of cows proceeded
for an hour and a half.
Meanwhile one of the bedrooms adjacent to ours was buzzing
with the activity of the burgeoning bridal party. Heather reckoned that up to 100 people had
been pouring in and out of the small room during the course of the morning and
that about 50 people had squeezed in there at any one time! This bedroom must have had Tardis like
qualities as it was the same size as ours, which are not spacious enough for much
more than our cases to be opened on the floor.
After over 2 hours of wrangling, it seemed that a bovine
agreement was forged and finally the wedding commenced with a colourful parade
of the bridal party issuing from the tiny bedroom. The bride, draped in robes of salmon pink lace
processed down the steps escorted by her brother. Leading the procession were a group of ladies
in pale lemon robes, and behind the bride, in yellow and white were a
collection of ladies carrying beautifully decorated presents, smothered in
ribbon and ruffled paper.
The bride and groom seemed to be married comparatively quickly
and the ring was place on the bride’s finger with their hands high in the air
for all to see, This was then followed
by the ceremonial sharing of drinks.
Next the happy couple spent a long time distributing gifts to various members
of both families, one we assumed, the bride’ father was presented with a cow
boy hat on the end of a walking stick!
He dutifully then donned the hat for the rest of the ceremony!
The bride and groom were finally seated in a smaller ‘top
table’ marquee to oversee the on going celebrations. We were shocked when a man shouting and
screeching burst onto the floor, dressed in what looked like a silver lurex
halter-neck dress, reminiscent of a marathon runner’s space blanket, over a
black shirt. He was madly wielding a
staff above his head and dancing around like a witch doctor! The bride came out of her bridal canopy to
join him, and he seemed to be serenading her!
Fortunately, Jaqueline came to our rescue to explain what on earth was
going on. Apparently it was all about
naming the cow and providing some particular herbs to keep the cow clean! After this peculiar performance another
similarly dressed fellow continued the ritual - all highly entertaining!
Eventually a chef dressed in traditional whites appeared and
led a team organising the arrangement of many dishes on a buffet. As the bridal
party moved to collect their food an African choir, in vibrant bright colours,
some with babies strapped to their backs, burst into swaying song to entertain
the guests. Their wonderful singing
continued for ages whilst all the marquees emptied and then refilled, with
guests carrying plates brimming with food.
The bride and groom’s ‘first dance’ could not have been more different
to their western equivalent. After ceremonially
feeding each other with their first meal as a married couple they then joined
the swaying choir for a boogie! Kicking
up quite a dust on the sandy ground, the bride and groom danced separately in their
indomitable African rhythmic style. The bride
danced with the ladies of the choir, whilst the men gathered around in a circle
and appeared to dance with their arms positioned as birds’ wings and stamped
together as African cranes might perform in a sort of mating ritual!
We felt so privileged to have witnessed such a wonderful
event, and though they must have been aware of our presence watching from our ‘balcony
seats’ there were nothing but smiles and the bridal party were even happy to
pose for our photos as the wedding came to a close in the heat of the mid
afternoon. Not only were we watching
from above, but there was also a little crowd of local children, who had
collected among the trees in ‘our garden’ and were joining in the dancing,
holding a private party of their own!
No sooner had the wedding finished than the rest of our team
returned from the conference. All had gone well with further teaching from Andy on refreshing our relationship with the Lord and more practical teaching on marriage and ministry from Alan and Eleanor. There was good interaction between pastors and opportunity for questions and comments which proved very useful. Alan and Andy managed to record interviews with the three pastors (and their wives) whose parishes are included in the SAP Programme and, from shared feedback, the conference was much appreciated.
After a quick drink and change of clothes, we headed off to negotiate with some local
widows about the purchase of some of the baskets they make in their homes. The ladies had laid out their handicrafts in
the yard of Pastor Eugene’s home, so we took the opportunity to pop into see
his lovely family of 6 children and his wife who was nursing her tiny new beautiful
baby – another opportunity for the grannies, Heather and Eleanor to cuddle and coo
over a cute bundle!
Please pray for: the
healing of the Caesarean scar of Pastor Eugene’s wife; for the pastors and wives as they return to their parishes; for the sorting out of the baskets.
Give thanks for a good conference; for God's provision of our needs (food, hospitality, transport).
Father God,
ReplyDeleteOnce more we lift up to You the Damascus Trust Team, Andy, Isobel, Heather, Eleanor and Alan.
[Now I’m not sexist in any way, but as I write this with Andy and Alan listed as I have, I’m reminded by the Holy Spirit of the two pillars of Solomon’s Temple (1 Kings 7:21 NIV) named Boaz, (north pillar) and Jakin (south pillar). In Hebrew, Boaz means “by His strength.” Jakin means “God will establish.” Taken together, these two names form a declaration, “By His strength – God will establish.”]
So I pray that By God’s strength, the work of this team of 2016 will have built upon the good works of past teams and laid further foundations for the teams yet to come that will establish God’s Kingdom people, living, building and healing in Rwanda.
We thank God for you and praise Him for His work through you Andy, Isobel, Heather, Eleanor & Alan together, in Christ Jesus our Lord. Amen.
God bless,
Terry
p.s.
This isn’t want what I really wanted to write about today, but the clear pictures of the Temple pillars in my mind as I started to write made me change direction. A true Holy Spirit moment in prayer. Peace and Love to you all.